Monday, 7 February 2011
Bad Mummy Club!
Have you ever been made to feel like you’re just a terrible Mum? Have Health Visitors and Midwives, ever made you feel like you are just not worthy? Maybe it was a mum in school that makes you feel like a failure? *starts counting heads*
Then apply to be a part of the Bad Mummy Club, we don’t judge, we just listen and maybe have a cup of tea with a nice slice of cake. (Ok a big slice of cake).
I don’t normally let things like this get me into a massive rant, but I feel that it’s finally time to let it all out and maybe I will feel better after saying it all. Please beware that some of you may hate me after this post.
Right apparently we are BAD MUMMYS if we don’t Breast Feed our children. Now let me get this out there. I have the upmost respect for any mummy that chooses to Breast feed, but please don’t make us mums that choose not too or simply can’t feel bad. I am so sick of going to our GP’s at the moment (they have one of those screens that for ads and stuff.) You know the ones, and I am so sick of that she’s a star Breast feeding mum’s ad.
In my eyes all mums that try their very best for their children, whether we choose to feed them from our bodies or from a shiny tin in the supermarket makes us no different. I was frowned at in the hospital all 4 times for not breast feeding, I simply couldn’t do it.
Next on the list is Weaning too early, right when my son was 4 months (he is now a teenager) we were advised to start weaning at 4 months. This was perfectish. Ok he got a bit peckish around 3mths old but a little tiny bit of baby rice sorted that out. (What! he was hungry). When I had Monster nearly 3 years ago they were recommending I didn’t wean him until he was 6 whole months old. I’m sorry but to some babies that is just cruel.
When Hitler...Ops sorry the Health Visitor shouted at me for weaning monster at 4 months, I couldn’t believe my ears she was basically telling me to starve my child. Red rag to a bull and I asked her if he was underweight, crying constantly then which department of Social Services she would report me to. End of matter all babies are different, if they are hungry feed them.
This brings me nicely onto Jarred Food. I was made to feel like a proper bad Mummy, by another mummy at school, because I didn’t make my own baby food. Now don’t get me wrong I have done the whole faffing around with carrots, mash and other such stuff, cooking it all up and putting it in ice cube trays. It was all good at the beginning, but my four ate for England. I would use a whole ice cube tray every day. So in the end I resorted to baby jars *listens for the gasps* there I said it. It kept the kids happy, so happy Babies = Happy Mummy.
Another thing I have been made to feel bad about is TV time. This is one of the ONLY times we will get a chance to do the housework. So when I was made to feel bad about even letting little one watch Cbebbies, I stared to challenge my mummy skills. How bad could watching TV be for little Monster? After all, all of the other Missions had watched it an it simply done them no harm, it’s not like I was letting them watch the Playboy channel now was it?
As they grow older we have a whole other set of bad mummy rules to break, take for example dare I say it. I sometimes feed my children *Deep Breath* FROZEN FOOD *hangs head in shame*
Seriously whatever! I give them sweets as well, so you might as well hang me now!
I am so sick and tired of being branded a BAD MUMMY, by people who don’t know me.
So what if i dont buy my daughters Lellie Kellie shoes or I dare to say NO to my kids on occasions.
Who cares that I shop at Primark, Tesco and Asda for clothes, because they are cheaper and sometime much nicer.
I won’t be judged because I ignore Temper tantrums whilst at the shops, yes I am one of those mums that walks away from their child. (but I have also just given in sometimes for a peaceful life.)
I am making a stand for all the “BAD MUMMY’S” out there *looks around* *prays I’m not alone*
So if you’re a Bad Mummy, then please leave a comment in the box and I will come and give you a gold star for joining the club.
Lots of love
Please note that i am in no way judging mummys who follow the book, but mummy hood is hard sometimes and there are no firm rules to follow. x